Let our lives be full of both thanks and giving.
As a British woman, it is unusual to celebrate thanksgiving, but this is one of my favourite holidays.
Mostly because it is a day dedicated to getting together with your nearest and dearest; sharing love and appreciation.
It is a day for people who are usually consumed by their troubles to take a moment and reflect. ‘I’m surrounded by people who care about me. And if nothing else, that is a reason to be thankful.’
When you have acne your mood can become so depressed that you rarely feel in a thankful spirit.
Instead of hiding away, the best thing you can do to lift your spirits is to be with your favourite people. Tomorrow (thanksgiving) is the perfect opportunity for you to get some emotional healing.
When you are feeling low, the people who love you do not care if you are having an ‘ugly day’. They are just happy to see you.
If surrounding yourself with loved ones isn’t an option, then you could set yourself a goal of exploring somewhere new. Somewhere where no one knows you and wouldn’t notice if you had acne.
When I was 23 I moved to a village in Surrey, UK where no one knew me. It gave me the freedom to go outside and not feel the need to cover up my skin.
Exploring new places alone isn’t for everyone. But for me, it felt like I had borrowed Harry Potter’s invisibility cloak and gave me the opportunity to not obsess about what I looked like.
Each time I went out without makeup felt like an achievement. I was exhilarated and felt like I was appreciating my surroundings for the first time.
THE KINDNESS OF STRANGERS
On the Christmas of 2014 I volunteered at a homeless centre over the holidays. It was something I had always wanted to do.
It was a bit like the episode in friends where Phoebe was trying to find a selfless good deed. It felt so uplifting to do something for other people less fortunate than myself, suddenly all my own problems became insignificant. Unintentionally the experience healed me.
As important as it is to surround yourself with people who love you, putting yourself in a position where you are meeting new people; can heal you in ways you might not expect.
Strangers have no real obligation to be nice to you but when they are, it can make you feel so wonderful that someone you don’t know is being so kind and considerate. It is those people you meet that remind you there are wonderful people out there, ready to be accepting of you, no matter what you look like.
Happiness comes when we stop complaining about the troubles we have and offer thanks for all the troubles we don’t have.